Boys are Stupid - Girls Arent...
Dairies of an ex-girlfriend:
Dear God:
Why did you make girls smarter than boys - only for us to point out their stupid behavoirs?
When I was in high school - lets just say I was "kinda" popular -
In the 9th grade - I dated a senior -
In the 10th grade - I dated a senior -
In the 11th grade - I dated a senior
And in the 12th grade - I dated a freshman...
(Insert quick note to my anonymous commentors - dont hate)
Okay - so your girl was always a head of the game -
or
We can also say that older guys "prey" on younger girls
- but I was no fool
being the youngest of seven - I was given a lot of advice and what I wasnt told - I observed...
So....whats wrong with dating in high school
#1 - Everyone is moody?
Horomones are developing and what I may have liked about you today - may piss me off tomorrow (as you grow older - this changes)
#2 - At this age - no one is "really" coming out and saying what they really mean or feel
I truly believe this is where "the game" begins -
I would like to introduce you to my representative: A person that looks good on paper
and what about the Guy who want to get as many notches under his belt that he takes notes on what he need to do - to get into girl's panties (some older guys play this game 2)
#3 - What it takes to "fit it" -
I dont know if I was pushed into "the crowd" - if I was selected - or kinda fell in...
But what it takes to be popular in some circles - means compromising your beliefs (red flad - dont do it)
Why I wrote this blog: I spoke to a young lady (who is 15 years old) last night - who had just gotten out of her 1st relationship - (being very careful) - I gave her some advice, shared some of my experiences and lastly and MOST important - I gave her sum - EMPOWERMENT.
#1 - Know what you want/like & why you like it
#2 - Be able to make your "own" decisions and stick to it
#3 - As my sister Ki once told me - "Dont say anything - to anybody - that you dont want repeated" and that goes especially to sharing information with girlfriends
#3 - Dont take it personally
#4 - Be a gem - (Be sought after)
#5 - (Piggy back on #3) - Pray for wisdom and when you know what to do - dont be afraid to move in that direction
#6 - Find a friend - NOT a Boyfriend
I know that these are just MY opinions - but when there is a time - that I would wish to relive a situation (but I cant physically go back in time) - I can use my power to help someone else make a better decision (and so can you)
3 Comments:
Maintaing your own beliefs is far greater than compromising and fitting it. Be yourself. Stand for something (positive) or you'll far for anything. Watch and listen because it goes a long way. If you pay attention to what people say and do, you'll pick up on what everyone else misses. Men will only treat you how you allow them to treat you. The mouth can speak volumes but behavior NEVER lies.
Highschool is not the end, it is the beginning-the beginning of expressing physical maturity, freedom, emotion, and options. Be yourself and let your feelings be known RESPECTFULLY. There is so much available for growth you would be a fool to primarily focus on social.
There is no need for all the effort. That will happen naturally. Boys and men will gravitate (naturally bc u r u)Females will feel the way they feel (naturally based on their reaction to the natural u)You can polish yourself, but never try to be someone else's polished version of themselves. It only makes them looked more put together. Focus on getting you right.
You can access more people to you by attending events, joining clubs or teams, but there will be no need to do anything EXTRA...EXTRA PEOPLE ARE WALKING LIES AND EXAGGERATIONS.
*DON'T FEEL YOU HAVE TO FORCE OR CONTROL NATURAL REACTION (IT WILL NEVER WORK OUT THE WAY YOU PLANNED)-although you are capable of influencing many, you can only change yourself.
*DON'T BE A DESCRIMINATORY ATTENTION WHORE BC YOU FEEL THAT THE MORE PEOPLE YOU MAKE LOOK BAD THE BETTER YOU'LL SEEM, OR THE MORE THAT SEE OR KNOW OF YOU THE MORE "POPULAR" U R...
IN HIGHSCHOOL POPULARITY IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION
*the people who say they ARE/were most popular probally have 4 friends and are most known bc most self exaggerated,spotlighted, and most overal laughed at and hated
*the social people who never/don't say, are still respected, considered, and cherished by a billion friends today
TAKE LOTS OF PICTURES and savor every detail that contributes to your progression.
Love yourself and put your feelings first. Work on focusing on where you want to be in life. Once you've reached that goal, then worry about meeting someone whose goal oriented. Always remember...Good women never go begging! MS. Bre :P
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